Introduction
John answered and said, A man can receive nothing, except it be given him from heaven.
John 3:27
For who maketh thee to differ from another? and what hast thou that thou didst not receive? Now if thou didst receive it, why dost thou glory, as if thou hadst not received it?
1 Corinthians 4:7
Early enough I learnt a very important lesson that ‘God does not show us what He cannot give us. If He eventually does not give us what he has shown us, then it’s because He has something bigger in plan for us. These thoughts and wisdom comforts me and helps me not to be desperate over the things I’ve seen or asked for.
This article is a question all through, even where it sounds assertive still consider it as a question, which can be answered, based on your opinion. Enjoy reading!!
What men ought to do?
Was it by believe, then I believed beyond all gambles
If it was by faith, then I had faith beyond all hesitation
Perhaps my faith lacked works. Maybe there were no matching actions to portray the state of my heart. Oh no but I did expressed my heart, my mind was communicated, no thoughts was hidden. The plans were communicated.
Perhaps, the plans were the problem. I had communicated the plans to move in phases. Was going to propose in the next two phases. The plan was well communicated and clarified. I promised to stick to a love I had found and to remain single eyed and land us through this plan.
My actions and efforts were they complete enough. What steps did I take to establish this promise that they were seriously serious? I never got a ‘we are in it together feedback’. These were the gaps in my works and a fault to express my love but left the expectations to fate without deliberate work to actualize it.
Any faith that depends on God absolutely for the expected outcomes is dead. So what lessons have I learned? Left for me I’d prefer to focus my mind until I’m done with the phases. Just be a good brother, a good friend to everyone around. Especially, I believed one should not be involved in a suffocating relationship until it is ready to do the very needful.
Then the society around seem to believe somewhat differently. The belief is that you do not have to wait for a perfect time to get serious but you can be purposeful and can relate through to the perfect phase. But wait, when you get serious, in many times does it leave room for the best interest of the dual? A longtime courtship or engagement which is due to the man not being ready to do the next needful would leave the lady waiting and winking other attentions. Would this not mean locking up the woman or staging her for the unreadiness of the man? Should the man fail to get the needful ready as planned or something went wrong between the two in the process of waiting, wouldn’t the lady be at loss.
Well, this is faith, to choose to take the long waiting aisle. it means mutual trust and for the lady a faith in her man’s process. To think of, finding a woman when a man is ready-can also be misleading as pretense and faking loyalty could be the case.
Every man who is ready is qualified to have the best. Every man who is in the process deserves to be given the best if the process can be committed to Faith worked out.
What the lady Ought to do?
On the other hand, a valuable relationship is preserved by maintaining the purpose or redefining it. Not in pretense or silence in their everyday updated status. The two should be able to freely update the other on the current state of things. I believe that it is the HONOR and the dignity of a lady to say yes. It is the responsibility of the man to woo her Yes. But why the Man woo, it is the respect for the man and an affirmation of his valuablity for the lady to update him where changes in status has occurred.
Guys can be vocal, many I would marry you and hundreds of I would marry you one day comes before the very will you marry me on the proposal date.
When a guy thinks futuristic, vocalizes futuristic, expresses hope for the future of the two to be together-if the lady whose honor it is to say yes thinks that she would never ever ever say yes or she’d changed her status, no longer available or is taking, it is her honor to respectfully let the man know that there won’t be a future together for them.
Somehow something looks like ladies like being woowed, and enjoys as many of them are coming in their direction even when they do not have the room for it. Why say thank you rather than say hey, thanks for the nice words though am no longer single, and you know we can always be friends. This would do the guy a lot of good, it will reduce the obsessions, the pictures, and the thought of love in his mind about the lady. Because loving someone who is in love with another is like pouring water on a rock. It makes love a waste of time , which is not good for Christians.
Okay, I know many guys can be persistent. Nevertheless, while a guy may not take a lady’s NO simply and easily, most guys would give way at the presentation of another guy by the lady. God has put this natural jealousy in man, which would not let them swallow it.
Conclusion
So what am I saying?
Guys, take the ultimate action, get the commitment prior to the proposal readiness. For the benefit of doubts, do not suffocate the lady, leave room for the exit if in her best interest and choosing.
The ladies, when you exist please update the guys, don’t keep enjoying companionship and pretend like you’re still with them.
An updated relationship is simply redefined to a new or stepped down in purpose, not necessarily a cost for an enmity or offenses.
There are more reasons to stick together than marriage and parting ways is never an option for brethren.
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