Let the change start with you

When you make people tread cautiously so they will not hurt you, it does not stop them from hurting you but increases their risk of hurting you, yet in their concerted efforts to not hurt you. The inkling that you might find stuff offensive makes them lose courage when they handle the stuff in such a way that what they might often handle well, becomes ill-handled.

There are practical cases of trying to crack a joke about someone, only to realize in the middle of the joke that it might not land well and in a bid to truncate it, coupled with the influx of fear about the possible offense outcome, the person ends up loosing the jokiness in their voice and probably sound more unassuming and confuses their speech with their intentions. thereby producing their fear at the end, rather than their intentions.

You can get this point from the explanation of law and grace or the approach of Jesus to giving salvation. God needed a man to live righteously. As long as that need and expectations lasted in the form of the law, the man never attempted an inch of those standards. In fact, the more man tried, the more they failed. To bring lasting solutions, God had to come down Himself and bought righteousness for man, thereafter gifting to man freely by the working of His Grace. Only then did man find the platform to stand and make successful efforts toward living out the life that pleased God.

So, what is the moral lesson here, like God; to make pleasing you attainable by removing the fear that cripples people when they remember that they have a task to successfully avoid hurting you.  Be hard to hurt, people will be freer relating with you and eventually reduce hurting you in real-time.

Consider this concluding bible verse by Apostle Paul:

¹⁵ I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. ¹⁶ And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. ¹⁷ As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. ¹⁸ For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature.^[a] For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. ¹⁹ For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. ²⁰ Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

Romans 7:15-20 (New International Version)