PROGRESSING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS The Errors of Overly Assumptions

INTRODUCTION

Many Christian brothers miss their opportunities with a lady they love due to inappropriately redefining and progressively specifying their relationship statues. In most cases, many brothers are always patiently prayerfully waiting for the perfect timesand the preparedness to settle down as a prerequisite for making this move.

However, Ladies do not only watch and wait for their guys defining words like to ask them out. But they also often have other guys who unfortunately are more desperate and pressing about what they want.

It is an over assumption to think that a lady is with you because she is playing along.

WHAT THEN SHOULD PEOPLE DO TO GUARD THEIR VALUED RELATIONSHIPS?

This is simply the purpose of this article. The parties in Relationship should consciously, conveniently, and deliberately progress in their relationship status to the Glory of God.

HOW SHOULD THIS BE?

It is pertinent to emphasize the various relationship status and to highlight the proper gradations which parties in Christian relationship could take in the actualization of the full purpose of their friendship.

Classes of Christian Relationships Status

• Single
• Engage
• Married

Ninety percent of young people in the peer’s group are in the single class of relationship status. Within singlehood, there are those in a relationship, and those who simply not engage but in an undefined, or complicated relationship, others are in an open relationship, while the real singles are those single but not searching, those married to Jesus or singles at heart. Meanwhile, some of the singles are searching, some are seriously searching and hoping to progress to the engaged status.

The need for a progressive relationship is all embedded within the single relationship status. Inside the single status, there are other sub statues which people in Relationship could consciously align to. These include:

• PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP
• COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP

PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP

A platonic relationship is a relationship where there are no emotional attachments. This is often the genesis of most relationships and it is the stages where it’s existence is with purposes other than futuristic ones. They are usually people who share the common interests, share common values, have gone through the same difficulties, and who support each other equally. Common relationship purposes here include;

• Friends for growing, learning and building each other.
• Friends for spiritual development, fellowship, and ministry.
• Friends for career development, partnership, and association in the given field.
• Friends in a geographical location, company or mates.
• There are also mentor friends for counsel, learning and consultation.
• Etc.

In this cadre of relationship, the relationship only exists as long as its purposes live. i.e; platonic relationships will always vanish when the purposes are no more. Yet platonic relationships are very key to our growth. We can’t overestimate how important good friends are to our growth in life. In fact, platonic relationships are to be esteemed more than a committed relationship. It is platonic relationships that birth committed relationships.

Within platonic relationships we have;

• Just Friends: these are like normal acquaintances.
• Good Friends: these are friends with mutual values.
• Close friends: Close friends are people you might not interact with very often but you seem to know their motives, integrity, and character, so even when you haven’t been in touch lately you feel confident speaking up for them. Close friends are very often considered like family to you.

COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP

A committed relationship is a relationship where there are defined and accepted emotional attachments. This is often the second phase of normal relationships and it is the stages where it’s existence is often with futuristic purposes. Common relationship purposes here include;

• Dating
• Courtship
• Marriage

In this cadre of relationship, it’s very appropriate to initiate extinct communications that allow for the deliberate progressive definition of the relationship. A guy, for instance, could decide to ask for a committed relationship pending the engaged stage. A committed relationship in such regards could be defined to include:

• being in a relationship-change a relationship status from ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship’

• It means a sense of commitment together in the relationship

• It means ones ‘one and only’
• It means knowing each other more.
• It means especially time to feel free to err with each other.
• It is beyond dating but it is not engaged status still.
• It means; I love you dearly And could propose to you if you show sign of the ability to take all there in you are going to see on knowing each other more…

The point in redefining a committed relationship is to put that thought in your minds in Words. The Bible book of Proverbs 25:11 rightly explained that ‘A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver’.

Wording your definition could follow the format of s poem, describing the gradation you hope for. An example is as below;

From day today
I feel my need for you the more
such is the more I feel lonely
maybe because you are not there presently
I know I have asked you many questions without waiting to get an answer
But this one
I’m kind of going to need an answer from you
Am going to appreciate a yes or no from you (even though your yes or no will not change my heart for you, it will help to inform my propositions, and the subjections I will keep my mind viz my further behaviors
Dear at this stage in my friendship with you
Am getting to feel I need more serious Relationship
So, sweetie, I want to know
Can you feel free with me?

Within committed relationships we have;

• Best Friends: Best Friend may refer to Someone with whom one shares the strongest possible kind of friendship.
• Intimate Friends: this means a very friendly, or very personal or private relationship. The word intimate means your innermost,” friend plus a mutual interests or affections; of established friendship.
• Romantic friends: An intensely emotional love relationship between two unrelated people, in which sexuality is unimportant and typically absent, but there is greater physical affection or poetic communication than is typical for friendship

Conclusion

So to avoid overly assumptions, on a good day, we should ask to know the relationship status of our significant others-our friends. The funny thing is-sincere people are always proud and ready to tell their relationship status. They only wait to be asked!

We could also want to check our friends Facebook relationship status. Though the majority of persons don’t bother updating their social media on their relationship status.

At some stages in our relationships, the knowledge of our status would help us to progress or to let the relationship to diminish.
Now, this does not mean to cut people out of our lives. In fact, the first thing we want to do when we notice a relationship isn’t going to progress is to take it back to its initial purpose as in the first cadre of relationship above.

Have I done good work? Am afraid, this is a delicate issue. Please do comment, where do we adopt, where should I review?

45 BIBLE VERSES ON TYPES OF CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIP

Introduction

Everyone is in a relationship. We understand this well when we realize the various platforms on which relationship exists and classify them as type of relationship.

Our understanding is also enlightened as we consider the various ways in which these types of relationship played out in the bible.

As such, this article is aimed at outlining the various bible chapters describing each of the various relationships cadre as listed in my previous article.

Relationship Defined

These verses below explain relationship as anyone we are connected to with a significant helpful part shared.

In Genesis 2:18, the phrase ‘help mate’ also mean counterparts. That is, a part opposite.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Gen 2:18)

While in Eccl 4:9-12 relationships is seen from such words as; ‘Two’ i.e.; another part, contrasted with alone. ‘Fellow’ i.e.; associate, companion. ‘Another’ i.e. second part.

Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken. (Ecc 4:9-12)

In 1Co 12:12, 14, & Eph 4:25; relationship could be seen as Members together.

For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ.

(1Co 12:12)

For the body is not one member, but many. (1Co 12:14)Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.(1Co 12:27)

Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another

(Eph 4:25)

And in 1Co 12:18-21, Relationship is all persons knit into one helpful body.

But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him. And if they were all one member, where were the body? But now are they many members, yet but one body. And the eye cannot say unto the hand, I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you.

(1Co 12:18-21)

WHAT ARE THE VARIOUS TYPE OF CHRISTAIAN RELATIONSHIP?

Bible verses on Kinships type of relationship

And he said unto them, Verily I say unto you, there is no man that hath left house, or parents, or brethren, or wife, or children, for the kingdom of God’s sake,(Luk_18:29)

Bible verses on Parents type of relationship

And he came by the Spirit into the temple: and when the parents brought in the child Jesus, to do for him after the custom of the law,

(Luk_2:27)

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

(Eph_6:1)

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

( Col_3:20)

By faith Moses, when he was born, was hid three months of his parents, because they saw he was a proper child; and they were not afraid of the king’s commandment.

(Heb_11:23)

Bible verses on Sibling type of relationship

And the anger of the LORD was kindled against Moses, and he said, Is not Aaron the Levite thy brother? I know that he can speak well. And also, behold, he cometh forth to meet thee: and when he seeth thee, he will be glad in his heart.

(Exo 4:14)

And she again bare his brother Abel. And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground.

(Gen_4:2)

And after that came his brother out, and his hand took hold on Esau’s heel; and his name was called Jacob: and Isaac was threescore years old when she bare them.

(Gen_25:26)

And Zillah, she also bare Tubalcain, an instructer of every artificer in brass and iron: and the sister of Tubalcain was Naamah.

(Gen_4:22)

Bible verses on In-laws type of relationship

When Jethro, the priest of Midian, Moses’ father in law, heard of all that God had done for Moses, and for Israel his people, and that the LORD had brought Israel out of Egypt;

( Exo_18:1)

Bible verses on Extended Members type of relationship

But if any widow have children or nephews, let them learn first to shew piety at home, and to requite their parents: for that is good and acceptable before God.

(1Ti_5:4)

And Moses called Mishael and Elzaphan, the sons of Uzziel the uncle of Aaron, and said unto them, Come near, carry your brethren from before the sanctuary out of the camp.

(Lev_10:4)

And he brought up Hadassah, that is, Esther, his uncle’s daughter: for she had neither father nor mother, and the maid was fair and beautiful; whom Mordecai, when her father and mother were dead, took for his own daughter.

(Est_2:7)

And Terah took Abram his son, and Lot the son of Haran his son’s son, and Sarai his daughter in law, his son Abram’s wife; and they went forth with them from Ur of the Chaldees, to go into the land of Canaan; and they came unto Haran, and dwelt there.

(Gen_11:31)

Bible verses on Neighbors type of relationship

And if the household be too little for the lamb, let him and his neighbour next unto his house take it according to the number of the souls; every man according to his eating shall make your count for the lamb.

(Exo_12:4)

But he, willing to justify himself, said unto Jesus, And who is my neighbour?
And Jesus answering said, A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among thieves, which stripped him of his raiment, and wounded him, and departed, leaving him half dead.
And by chance there came down a certain priest that way: and when he saw him, he passed by on the other side.
And likewise a Levite, when he was at the place, came and looked on him, and passed by on the other side.
But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was: and when he saw him, he had compassion on him,
And went to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine, and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him.
And on the morrow when he departed, he took out two pence, and gave them to the host, and said unto him, Take care of him; and whatsoever thou spendest more, when I come again, I will repay thee.
Which now of these three, thinkest thou, was neighbour unto him that fell among the thieves?
And he said, He that shewed mercy on him. Then said Jesus unto him, Go, and do thou likewise.

(Luk 10:29-37)

For this, Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet; and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

(Rom_13:9)

Bible verses on Acquaintance type of relationship

Then came there unto him all his brethren, and all his sisters, and all they that had been of his acquaintance before, and did eat bread with him in his house: and they bemoaned him, and comforted him over all the evil that the LORD had brought upon him: every man also gave him a piece of money, and every one an earring of gold.

( Job_42:11)

I was a reproach among all mine enemies, but especially among my neighbours, and a fear to mine acquaintance: they that did see me without fled from me.

( Psa_31:11)

But they, supposing him to have been in the company, went a day’s journey; and they sought him among their kinsfolk and acquaintance.

(Luk_2:44 )

And all his acquaintance, and the women that followed him from Galilee, stood afar off, beholding these things.

(Luk_23:49)

And he commanded a centurion to keep Paul, and to let him have liberty, and that he should forbid none of his acquaintance to minister or come unto him.

(Act_24:23)

Bible verses on Partners type of relationship

Nevertheless God, that comforteth those that are cast down, comforted us by the coming of Titus;

(2Co 7:6)

I had no rest in my spirit, because I found not Titus my brother: but taking my leave of them, I went from thence into Macedonia.

(2Co 2:13)

And they beckoned unto their partners, which were in the other ship, that they should come and help them. And they came, and filled both the ships, so that they began to sink.

(Luk_5:7)

And so was also James, and John, the sons of Zebedee, which were partners with Simon. And Jesus said unto Simon, Fear not; from henceforth thou shalt catch men.

(Luk_5:10)

Bible verses on Mates type of relationship

Then Daniel went to his house, and made the thing known to Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah, his companions:

(Dan_2:17)

And in all matters of wisdom and understanding, that the king enquired of them, he found them ten times better than all the magicians and astrologers that were in all his realm.

(Dan_1:20)

But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king’s meat, nor with the wine which he drank: therefore he requested of the prince of the eunuchs that he might not defile himself.

(Dan 1:8)

And when the virgins were gathered together the second time, then Mordecai sat in the king’s gate.

(Est 2:19)

Bible verses on Friendship type of relationship

But Amnon had a friend, whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David’s brother: and Jonadab was a very subtil man.

(2Sa_13:3)

These things said he: and after that he saith unto them, Our friend Lazarus sleepeth; but I go, that I may awake him out of sleep.
And from thenceforth Pilate sought to release him: but the Jews cried out, saying, If thou let this man go, thou art not Caesar’s friend: whosoever maketh himself a king speaketh against Caesar.

(Joh_19:11-12)

Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost.

(Mat 1:18)

Bible verses on Courtship type of relationship

Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost.

(Mat 1:18)

Bible verses on Married type of relationship

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

(Gen 2:18)

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

(Pro 18:22)

And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah’s tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.

(Gen 24:67)

Last Word

I hope this helps.

Let me have your critics on this kind of article.